Let me begin with what love is not. People say it is a “chemistry”! In that case, in this chemistry there is no place for ionic bonds. It is not a rose plant without thorns. It is not a feeling that depends on one’s physical appearance (the main difference between love and attraction). It is not a fine thread that can be easily snapped. It is not a pen’s refill that can be easily changed. It is not ‘cheap and common’.
Love is all about friendship; in fact love can be said an elder brother of friendship. The bondage of true love is too strong to break. Shah Jahan and Mumtaj, Romeo and Juliet – even time could not erode their love story, what opposition can the mere society impose? It knows no bounds. It is very foolish to say,”I don’t love him/her any more.” One can’t do away with love so easily. It sticks to you as a shadow. The quoted line simply means he/she never loved her/him.
Love is a great teacher. It brings about great reforms. It teaches us the act of sharing and sacrifice. It teaches us to be happy with small things that life has in store for us. It teaches us to hide our fears and tears for the sake of our beloved. It teaches us to live a respectable life so that our beloved could feel proud of us. It teaches us to feel for others.
Love is a very strong force that binds people together. It is an ever growing force. It never decreases. It can break down massive walls between countries, castes, races. It crushes ego. It joins hearts and souls. It reduces distance between people. It can uproot evil social traditions.
For a good relation, participation of both the partners is very vital. It is not a one-way traffic! The later type is very short lasting. Both should know each other very well. It ensures that no third party can poke his nose to break the relation. A loved one should be trusted without any doubt. Love cares and cures. It houses great power of healing and curing. The magical legends of Jesus can be explained by saying that he was a lover of the whole mankind.
If you consider love as a beautiful rose, the five petals of it are friendship, trust understanding, sacrificing and caring. The thorns are too small a price to pay for the beautiful rose. Under no circumstance does nature allow the wasting of a rose.
But how many people deserve to be loved so devotedly? I don’t feel there are many. People too often confuse love with attraction. There is nothing called ‘love at first sight.’ It takes time to build up a beautiful relation and longer to break it. This confusion and misunderstanding causes rapid making and breaking of relations. People who do not understand what love is should not cry about saying,” I’ve lost love.”
P.S. My cousin (now in class six) was regretting to me that in her school none valued true love and friendship. There friendship is reduced only to cards and friendship bands. How can we now proudly say,”We are social beings”?
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